The Hostage Taker

    Have you ever met somebody, girl or guy, who you really didn't want
to hurt. They seem fragile. The "hostage taker" takes this fragile state to
the next level. They may actually make statements such as, "If you break
up with me, I'm going to kill myself". These are the guys who always seem
to have some kind of drama in their lives and you get sucked into rescuing
or "being there" for them. I'm not saying that it's inappropriate to help a
friend out, or to be supportive of a boyfriend.
     The challenge comes when a person becomes so involved in the other person's problems that they lose sight of their own needs, responsibilities, and boundaries. When a person threatens to "kill themselves" if you make a choice to leave the relationship, don't take it upon yo urself to "save" him. Don't take it upon yourself to be his counselor, pastor, or parent. He needs some serious help. He may be using this threat to keep control of you, to get attention, or because he is seriously depressed and suicidal. Do you want to be the one to find out if
he's serious? As mature as you may believe you are, this is an adult issue that
needs some serious guidance and intervention. You are not the person to
help the boy, and it's not fair of him to put that kind of pressure on you.

    Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world) but be
transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test
and approve what Gods will is his good) pleasing and perfect will.
3 For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of
yourself more highly than you ought) but rather think of yourself with sober
judgment) in accordance with the measure of faith God has given you. 4
just as each of us has one body with many members) and these members
do not all have the same function) 5 so in Christ we who are many form
one body) and each member belongs to all the others. 6 We have different
gifts) according to the grace given us.